and no-one would listen anyway.

the current elected government is destroying, tearing apart the uk and as usual it’s womyn and children who are suffering.

it feels like everything we’ve fought for has been taken from us, or is threatened.

it feels like we’ve lost and may as well just give up.

so that’s ok then, she didn’t say no so you can do what you like?

from here: rape victim didn’t speak

you know what’s more important? she didn’t say yes or show any sign of wanting what you were doing.

you can not and must not ever assume consent merely by the absence of denial. consent is an active thing, a deliberate thing, not simply passive acceptance of a horror that is being done.

fear is a silencer, she was terrified and therefore silent. it’s more common than you think.

i hope both jack tweed and anthony davis get locked up for a very long time and that horrific things are done to them in jail – perhaps then they will understand the nature of true consent as opposed to the lack of denial.

it’s been a while…. sorry. actually i’m not sorry, i have a life that exists outside the virtual world. but hey, it’s still been a while and i did debate ditching the blog as an i can’t be arsed any more thing.

then i was doing some research for something else and i had a conversation with a friend about it….

i’ve been reading some “erotic fiction” and some of it is really well written with nicely developed characters and plot – but some is just shockingly badly written drivel. some of it is excellent writing that just happens to have some semi graphic sex scenes in amongst the story, admittedly more sex than i’d expect in any other written work but still, there’s plot and character and the writing is good.

but most of what i’ve found and read is crap and quite frankly just an excuse for teenage boy level “how many times can i say cock or dick on one page” or “how many rude words can i put in” *snigger* it’s pathetic.

i mean, it’s just plumbing after all, it’s just anatomy and really, anatomy just gets in the way of the feelings, of the emotion of the moment – in real life and in the written word.

it’s all about domination and persuasion and oh you want to really and she just gave in when touched in “the right place”

fuck that. it’s just another weapon in the war against womyn, just another level in the grinding down of all womyn into “but you want it really” it’s verbal violence. i’m actually shocked at how badly crafted it is and that some folks would actually choose to read it.

no means no, persuasion is only a step away from rape and anatomy is so damned crude. oh and learn about spelling, grammar, punctuation and actually, just learn how to write properly or sod off.

aged 10 and charged with rape.

2 boys, both aged 10 years of age, have been charged with rape in west london. the female victim was 8 years of age.

the shock is huge, and the questions this raises unanswerable and the possible answers unthinkable.

what’s going on in those kids homes? how does a 10 year old know what rape is or know what to do?

male, female or other?

forgive any ignorant assumptions i might make here, as a born female, still female as adult i have enough prejudice and subjugation to deal with and understand. i don’t pretend to understand any of the issues facing people of trans-gender status, but i’m open to education as long as you treat me and the subject with the respect we both deserve.

so if you are a pre or post op trans-sexual and you want a passport, or a driving licence, or if you want to vote, what do you put on the form? what about the few people who are androgen sensitive or gender mis-assigned? or those who simply don’t fit the “normal” binary genital sex/gender boxes?

it feels to me like the whole married or single choice you get on forms – ok so now i see more of the married/single/divorced/never married/cohabiting etc as options and quite frankly they’re as confusing as hell sometimes and i’d quite like the option of “none of your business actually”

but male or female, i mean, what else is there? male, female or what?do we need the choice to identify as “born female, assigned female at birth, very happy with that thank you very much and staying that way until i die”? why not just have human – yes/no. mind you i can think of some that might have trouble proving that one….

“The inclusion of eunuchs and transgenders as ‘others’ gives us a separate identity which is what we have always wanted,” said Laxmi Narayan Tripathi, a prominent eunuch activist and founder of campaign group Astitva.

an important step, but “other”? other to me denotes something different, something that doesn’t fit. it’s a label i find fits me well and i’m happy with it as it rejects all other labels and boxes and stereotypes i might be forced into, but is it really what is needed here?

apparently…

the men who kill out of passion.

it’s been that way for hundreds of years but that doesn’t make it right. women are still seen as property, to be owned and controlled or killed if we don’t obey and do as we’re told.

a man can use “she provoked me.” or “she said she might leave me.” as defence against murder and that’s taken as mitigating circumstances and he gets his sentence/conviction reduced to a lesser charge of manslaughter and he can be out of prison in under 3 yrs.

[Harriet] Harman agrees that the problem is profound. “It’s about whether or not male ownership of a woman’s sexuality entitles him to take violent action. It’s very primeval.”

surely we’ve evolved beyond that now? males do not own females, men do not own women. we are not power tools or cars, or any other inanimate object you can purchase at whim.

oh, hang on, yes we are aren’t we? or at least parts of us are, the parts you (men) want to stick parts of yourselves into, any orifice will do as long as you’re satisfied. while women are still bought and sold like this, while men still own our sexuality and our bodies then we are victims and the killing won’t stop.

screaming into the void.

yes, me too. meat is part of my balanced diet, always has been and likely always will be. not sure if i label myself as a radical feminist though. i am pro choice, pretty much any choice you care to make in any part of your life. my only proviso is that your choice should harm no-one, and even then that’s not my decision to make for you. define “harm”, define “choice” it’s all so nebulous.

but, geeky gamer – screaming into the void, i support your choice to eat meat, to eat whatever you need to in order to stay healthy. i support the choice of any woman to eat whatever she wishes.

what i do not support is the intolerance of these rabid evangelical vegan/vegetarians who try to tell us that their way is the only way.

it isn’t, so fuck off.

don’t we? we forget just how shit they are, forget exactly what it was that pissed us off so we kicked them out. we justify their demands and excessive control over us, these men, these fathers, these partners, husbands, lovers and brothers.we excuse their every demand however unreasonable, no matter how much it hurts us, regardless of what we feel or what we want, despite the fact that it separates us from our womyn friends – because it is the right of almighty man to demand and receive what he desires. we forgive every mistake, explain away every indiscretion and yes, of course the almighty man can worm his way back into our lives because we can’t possibly cope without one can we? a woman on her own without the support and protection of a man? unthinkable!

it’s just the way he is…

sex is important to men…

it must be something i did wrong…

it’s partly my fault too…

he needs to feel in control…

how many times have you heard those, or said them? so we just let them be in control to spare the poor fragile male ego. we enable them to dominate and control us and we perpetuate this bastard patriarchy even while we rage against it. we are so indoctrinated in the rules, the ways of men that we reinforce it, we train our children the same way.

it’s insidious. it invades our thoughts so deeply that we don’t even realise we’re doing it.

divide and conquer, that’s the game. stop these uppity womyn supporting each other or daring to speak out against the almighty man, daring to have our own feelings, friends, wants and desires.

fuck that my sisters. fuck that.

it’s war, devious, insidious warfare orchestrated to keep us in our place, controlled and subservient. and no, you’re not immune to it just because you see it. it’s still part of your life, you still let the almighty him control you and dictate who you can be friends with, who you are allowed to talk to, who you are allowed to be with, what you are allowed to do with your life.

roman polanski has been arrested in switzerland for the rape of a 13 yr old in 1977.

uh, was it sex or was it rape, that article seems confused….

Mr Polanski fled the US in 1978 after pleading guilty to unlawful sexual intercourse with an underage girl.

unlawful sex? that’s rape, call it rape. quit trying to clean it up and make it look like something it wasn’t.

then on the news earier some friend of his is claiming “the whole thing is ridiculous, all over some silly mistake all those years ago” (or something like that, i’m paraphrasing a bit because I can’t remember the exact quote) silly mistake? rape of a 13 yr old is a silly mistake???

i knew there was a reason i hate his films, and him. revolting man, i hope they lock him up and throw away the key.

she was tied to the fence by her wrists and whipped across the legs with a second rope and then those with the power covered it up as an “accident”.

adult crime? porn movie? horror movie? teenagers messing about?

no.

a 7 year old girl tied and beaten by 4 of her male class mates. it was misreported to the girl’s parents and the school staff member who brought the details into the light has been dismissed for “breach of pupil confidentiality”

but that’s not what has me fuming. what’s missing in that report? the boys haven’t been named, there’s no mention of their reasons for tying up a girl and whipping her, no mention of the punishment they received, no mention that the mother of one boys is on the staff at the school too. so the school is clear on the patriarchal power hierarchy then – protect the male at all costs for he must be right in all things. what message is that giving every child in that school? boys can beat you, tie you up and do what they like to you if you are female because you are nothing and you are not worthy of the care that is lavished on the male. nice life lessons great tey primary school, you’re setting up every boy to be a power hungry, physically abusive bully, and every girl to be a submissive abused victim.

how about looking to see where the idea for tying and whipping came from? i’d suspect there was easy access to porn material in the home(s) of the boys concerned and just because mummy is a school governor doesn’t mean she’s squeaky clean either, or the boy’s father perhaps, but it’ll be there somewhere, this smells of pornographic influence and in my view exposing a child to porn, deliberately or accidentally, is abuse in its own right.

look at your policies and your reasons for protecting these boys great tey, look carefully at yourself.